Welcome, welcome, welcome.
You are very lucky today! Why? Well, you’ve just opened my latest blog, and this is the last post that I will write as a 24-year-old! (Honestly, I hope you reading this ISN’T the best thing that happens in your day.) But, I do hope that you enjoy.
As I quickly approach becoming a quarter of a century, I wanted to share with you 25 life lessons that I’ve learned before turning 25.
- Self-Reflection: We have mini self-reflection moments continuously throughout the day. Should I have sent that text? Did I have the right major in college? Am I doing okay at work? I don’t know about you, but I have these thoughts all. damn. day. Though it’s important that we don’t overanalyze things, I feel that it’s completely fine to reflect on the things that you’ve done and what you’re currently doing. Set aside some time each day to gather your thoughts because it’s important that you keep yourself in check.
- Value Family: If you know me personally, you know how important family is to me. Growing up with five sisters wasn’t easy. But, when I look back at all of the fun that we used to have, even the stupid arguments that we’d get into, I can’t help but smile. As an asshole teenager, how many times did you get into fights with your parents? Too many. Today, I won’t even go a day without talking to my mom! You only get one family. Cherish every moment with them.
- Be Yourself: I’ve grown comfortable with who I am. In high school and even throughout college, you want people to like you. I’ve hit that point in life where I’ve realized that not everyone is going to like you and that’s really fine with me. The people who realize your value and awesomeness will stick around and you shouldn’t think twice about the people who don’t.
- Quality over Quantity: I know a lot of people and I’m friends with very few. I’ve been friends with the same people for years. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve made new friends along the way as well, but I’m not out seeking to make new ‘friends’ every day. The quality of the relationships that you have is much more important than the number of friends that you have. Don’t befriend someone just to get another Instagram follower. People that you invite in should add value to your life.
- Relationships Aren’t Easy: I think I’ve learned this most within this past year. Whether it’s your significant other, a friend, a coworker, a family member or anyone in between, you must remember that relationships take effort. A lot of effort. Nothing in life is easy, and to maintain happy and healthy relationships, you need to be willing to put in the work.
- Be Bold: Try new things. Visit new places. Do whatever it is that you’ve always wanted to do. You only have one life and you should live it with no regrets. Stop being afraid to do things that push you outside of your comfort zone because that’s where some of the best memories are made.
- Do What You Love: Don’t pursue anything that you aren’t passionate about. There are only 24 hours in a day… Why should you spend them being miserable?
- Take Care of Yourself: Mentally, physically and emotionally. Take up yoga. Run. Go hiking. Mediate. Make healthier decisions (but, indulge occasionally too!) Find whatever it is that works for you. You get one body to live in; take care of it.
- Challenge Yourself: Development and challenges don’t stop once you clock out of work. This year, I ran my first 5K and started to study Spanish. Those will seem like very small challenges to some people, but the little things that you do to push yourself count for something! Never stop bettering yourself.
- Don’t Be Judgemental: This is easier said than done. Very often, we can find ourselves passing judgment on others and we need to stop this. In the same breath, stop comparing yourself to others as well. Life isn’t about being better than anyone else. Life is about being better than you were yesterday.
- Share Your Story: Think of all of the things that you’ve been through in life. The good and the bad. Guess what! There are other people in life that have gone through similar situations and you can share your story with them. This can make someone who feels lonely a little less alone.
- Be a Good Listener: This probably should’ve been number one on the list. Listening is critical. How irritated do you get when people don’t listen to you? Listen with the intent to actually hear what the other person is saying. Don’t listen with the intent to respond. Truly listening to others will help you at work and at home. It will literally help you with EVERYTHING.
- Give Back: Whether you give your time, money or resources, give back whenever you can. I had a pretty easy life growing up. I never went without anything. I had food, clothes, family, friends, a roof over my head and more. Not everyone is as fortunate as you and me. Even the smallest gesture can seem like so much more to someone else. Find your cause and make a difference… I believe in you.
- Be Kind to Others: I hope that you were raised with manners. USE THEM! Say thank you. Hold the door for others.Don’t talk down to people. I hate to say it because it’s so overused, but seriously, treat others the way that you would want to be treated. Living a life of kindness is the only way that we can make the world a better place.
- Say You’re Sorry: I’m not perfect. I’ve screwed up many times. I’ve hurt others in the past and I’ve learned to apologize for my actions. Say you’re sorry, but make sure that you mean it. And don’t just say it, take the actions to prove that you’ve realized that you fucked up. Change your behavior and change your attitude. Most importantly, don’t let it happen again.
- Forgive: You can’t hold grudges forever. Life is too short to be petty. Accept the apology and move on.
- Love: As often as you can.
- Laugh: Who doesn’t like a good laughing session? Not to mention it’s a kickass ab workout. Laugh at yourself. Make others laugh. Smile more often. You’re alive and that’s undoubtedly something to smile about.
- Cry: Life isn’t always going to be a ball of sunshine. Within my 24 years of life, I’ve gone through some of the hardest things I think that I’ll ever experience. It’s okay to cry. You are a human. You are not indestructible. You have feelings and that’s okay. Just make sure that after you cry, you continue to move forward.
- Say Yes and Say No: We often find ourselves saying ‘yes,’ even to things that we aren’t necessarily thrilled about doing. We do this because we are worried about pleasing others. It’s okay to say no if you don’t want to do something. Just make sure that you say ‘yes’ to the things that you really want to do! Spur of the moment mini road trip on your day off? Sure!
- Treat Yourself: You work hard. You deserve to spoil yourself from time to time. I’m not telling you to go buy yourself the most expensive new bag or anything like that, but do kind things for yourself. Sleep in sometimes. Buy yourself flowers. Take a break. You are special and you deserve the best. *Insert hair flip emoji*
- Find a Hobby: And I’m not talking about Netflix… Craft. Play a sport. Read. Get involved in something that doesn’t revolve around social media. It’s so refreshing. I promise.
- Have Fun: This is your one shot. Make your life count.
- Ask Questions: There was a point in time when I was a know-it-all. Ask my mom… These days, I ask about a million questions per day because I’ve realized that there’s so much that I don’t know!
- You Still Have So Much to Learn: I’m never going to have this whole life thing figured out… I’m older than some, but I’m not old at all. I have so much to learn and I have so many people to learn from. Experience all that you can. I’m looking forward to the new opportunities and experiences that are in my future.
Cheers to another year of this crazy, crazy life!